The Male Perspective on "It Was Consensual!!

OK, I figure that some women are likely going to hate me for writing an article like this. But I am going to write it anyway, because we have a problem within our society that has resulted in many innocent men being put in jail based on weak evidence. I am talking about men who have wrongfully been accused of rape or non-consensual sex with a female; I figure this went on for 2 - 3 decades before stronger evidence was required to convict them.

I get that there are utter scumbags who should be jailed who take advantage of women who are drunk or are actual rapists.

Though most normal guys will stop when asked by a woman. But, it's usually bad tact for women to change their minds right at the climactic moment; they should have not let it get that far. Thankfully, it's just a select group who do this, it does not apply to the majority of women.

It depends on the situation and a person's mind state of course. Sometimes, two people just got together and thought they were ready and then one or both decided they were not and stopped before it went all the way. I can understand that, and we decent men have to respect that, and vice versa if a guy changed their mind.

If a woman has a stable mind, she will reject the guy, and he will accept that if he is a decent guy. It's only really the scumbags that would continue after actually being rejected verbally, or physically, like when a woman pushes away to indicate she does not wish to continue.

Of course, we also have women who have insecurity issues and don't give clear signs; such women give no physical cues like pushing away or turning away, and only really gives out subtle cues. These men really can't read those signs and keep pushing. In some of these cases she could have initiated the intimate reaction with them, so it's already a go in the minds of those guys.

There are some women who really don't know what they want, and they play these ridiculous games with men and act in a way that is a clear indicator that they are interested in taking something further. Yet, at the same time they don't, they only do what they think the guy wants, and it creates problems.

In these situations most guys read this and ask for confirmation, they back away and wait for some type of confirmation before continuing; it's just the clueless types that might not perceive it as an indicator to stop; she has to physically push them away and set a boundary for them to gain an understanding that she does not wish to continue.

Therefore, women who give no clear signals and then go along with it and then accuse the guy of rape after are terrible people; there isn't any excuse for allowing something to happen and taking no action whatsoever to show a guy they don't wish to go further.

Those clueless men may have issues of their own, but it does not necessarily mean they are rapists or creeps, it's an internal drive to mate with a female, and they read the situation wrong. The fault ultimately falls on those types of women; it's not rape if she gave no clear indication that she was not consenting to it; especially if she just lay there and let it happen. In some cases, she may have even kissed and touched to exacerbate the situation; no normal male is ever going to be able to decode something like that when in the moment; she is reciprocating, yet she does not want it, that's not normal?

However, this type of woman may just be insecure. Though, it's really difficult to prove what actually happened in these types of situations. Personally, in these types of situations, I think the courts should set a condition for both parties to undergo a psychological evaluation. This might be a good way to determine her state of mind and perhaps even offer counselling.

There are two sides to a story and in the modern context, it's usually the woman's side that seems to be weighted as such she is often seen as the victim by default. This is not necessarily correct. I get that society views men as stronger than women physically and that women should be protected against male aggression.

But, what about female aggression towards men? We can't keep pretending this either does not exist or downplaying this side of the narrative.

There are insecure and psychologically damaged women who require psychiatric help. Such women have lied and accused men of rape after something did not go as they expected or changed their mind either during or after an intimate reaction. Many of these types are completely delusional and live in a fantasy world that is not reflective of the actual reality.

Of course, this same type may have had a bad situation with a man in the past, either he broke her through abuse, or she invented a completely fabricated series of events in her head about a man after a stress-induced psychological break; in some cases, her mental state may have been as a result of sexual abuse at the hands of an abuser during her childhood.

Some of these types will seek love and intimacy. Though, when their fantasy is shattered, they will invent an entire narrative in their heads about how the guy was to blame for the entire interaction that led to the sex. She will see that she wanted something, but did not want that, therefore in her mind, he forced himself onto her. As such, she may decide to cry rape as a means of justification.

There may also be cases stemming from a past event where such types of mentally unstable women have developed some type of bias towards men. Which means, they may initiate intimacy with men for revenge, or to gain power over a man.

I have seen first-hand the damage some of these women can do. They approach a guy and initiate the conversations, they are the first to start flirting. The guy responds, and mutually they progress to the next step. Sometimes the guys stops to ask and with these types, they have an ulterior motive and will just agree to get to the next stage.

All seems like it went well after the sexual interaction, they both appear to be happy, and the guy is none the wiser. They may exchange numbers, but in those situations very soon after the sexist police are at the door and are only interested in one side of the story and arrest the guy. That arrest will go on the guy's police record as a sexual offence, even if he is not convicted? That's the case with my country anyway.

Because of these one-sided narratives and the actions of the police, men started to record a video showing evidence of consent. Now, here is where things get interesting. Some women, or rather the psychotic type that want to trap a man and accuse him of rape, they declined to be recorded giving consent; in fact, they seem somewhat offended. They would happily give verbal consent though, and go with that.

Personally, that's a red flag. If somebody rejects giving consent over a video it could just be that they felt offended that you could not trust them and have to seek consent; that's understandable. However, when they refuse the video consent and rather just go by the verbal, that's not normal. It shows that they have an ulterior motive and can't be trusted.

Normal women in recent hook-ups won't have a problem with the video consent, it protects both parties. It does not even have to apply to hook-ups. Perhaps it's two friends or a recent connection that led to the next stage, in either case, be cautious. Most women are decent and normal, but we have to watch out for those who are not.

I just got fed up with hearing the female perspective, a one-sided narrative that's not always accurate or correct. It takes two people to have sex, society needs to stop pretending it's only males who are the sexual predators. Some men are completely innocent, and we need to change our society to correct this injustice.